Letters to Rachael

Rachael Marty is what I would name the daughter that I'm never gonna have. Under Letters to Rachael will be things I would tell my daughter, if I had one. Which are probably things I wish someone would have told me. 

Rachael,

The other day I walked into a car dealership, alone, and the first man to approach me said, “Hello, where is your husband?”

“I don’t need my husband,” was my response.

True then, true now. Make it true for you. Don’t ever allow yourself to be in a position where you need a man. I love my husband, but need is different than want.

I want him by my side. I want him as my partner. I want to share my life with him. But I don’t need him. Once you need someone to complete you or to survive off of, you lose yourself. Be strong, be independent. Learn how to provide for yourself, think for yourself, and make educated decisions. Don’t let anyone make you feel inferior or incapable.

It’s ok to allow a man to do all things for you, but be able to do them for yourself if you have to. You are worth it.